Juggling Responsibilities

Oftentimes, it becomes a thing of wonder, how parents and teachers juggle the responsibilities of raising the child and end up in a blame game as to who is responsible for what and why.

It is obvious, sociologically speaking that the home is the backbone and first agent of socialisation. Before the child is exposed to society, it is in the family that he is taught his first steps which shape his interaction with the outside world.

However, with changing times, the school is assuming more responsibilities for the child than necessary. That today, it is not uncommon to see primary schools that has provision for boarding houses is reality enough for my claims. A child at a tender age becomes the burden of the school entirely.

One weekend, during a PTA meeting held at school, a teacher, out of concern, had suggested that the closing hours, especially for lower classes should be adjusted so that the kids can make it home early enough to relax.

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Most of my colleagues, the teachers, nodded in agreement with this. But before the matter could be considered, one of the parents, a mother, quickly objected.

The mother contended that there is nothing ‘productive’ the children do at home other than play, therefore, it is better to keep all day in school and engage them in academic activities. Another parent chipped in that as a civil servant, she is too busy especially on weekdays, to cater for the child at home. Another even appealed to the school management to consider a boarding house so that his kids can spend the whole term at school!

In retaliation, the teachers argued that pupils lose the enthusiasm to learn and are fatigued by the time its past noon. They further asserted that even with the daily siestas and recess hour, the pupils still become passive sometimes.

In their defence, the parents sealed the debate by reminding the school that it is their ‘responsibility’ to figure out how to cater for the children all day without boring them, after all, the school wasn’t doing that for free, was it?

While all this was going on, it was fair to conclude that the relaxation of the child has been all but prioritised.

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Engaging the child in incessant school activities without rest does not help the child psychologically and physiologically. Relaxation is fundamental when it comes to physical and mental health because children grow up surrounded by constant stimuli and remain excessively active most of the time.

Relaxing entails attaining a state of physical and mental comfort through diverse techniques and exercises. The advantages are multiple when it comes to a child’s health and emotional intelligence. Similarly, it motivates learning and social relationships.

Even with the extracurricular activities inculcated in the school curriculum, it is still necessary for the child to have some quality time in a more personalised space, at home.

It is apparent why good mental health is crucial. A relaxed child is prepared to think more constructively and positively. At home, they have the space and serenity to step back and reflect on matters and their behaviour is extensively enhanced.

Stress is particularly problematic for children because, among many others, it can induce long-term difficulties such as malfunctions in memory, learning and general behaviour.

Engaging children in easy physical exercise is a good way to start with relaxing the child. Exercise builds a stronger heart, bones and healthier muscles which stimulate healthy growth and development. It is important to make it in a fun way so that they are likely to stick to it and not see it as a chore. Exercises help improve their self-esteem, posture and balance lowering stress.

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Meditation, also another powerful relaxation strategy, can help calm the nerves of an especially anxious child. Meditation increases the focus and prolonged the attention span of the child while reducing stress. Similarly, it secures stronger mental resilience and improved emotional regulation as well as increased self-awareness and empathy.

Equally important in relaxing the child is effective communication. Giving the child the freedom of expression is a powerful tool to decipher their thoughts and how they perceive their surroundings. Giving them a listening ear in a way that makes them feel valued and important develops their self-esteem and improve their communication skills. More importantly, communication secures an emphatic bond between the parent and child in a way that surmounts boundaries that prevent the child from expressing themselves when necessary.




2 thoughts on “Juggling Responsibilities

  1. I agree with all your claims. I wish this article will go far to reach a good number of parents out there!

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